Let’s play “what happens next”!

Is your week off to a great start? Or could you use some motivation to fuel you forward? It doesn’t matter if you feel stuck and unmotivated or if you feel great, you’ll probably like what I have for you today.

This week I don’t have an article for you, but an invitation to play. Hey! Play is always fun and it has a great energy to get you out of a rut, if you’re in one.

So I invite you to join me in a game of “what happens next”.

This week, pay attention to your ideas. Any kind of inspired idea, that is about you doing, learning or creating something. Something you feel excited about. Like:

“Hmmm… there are so many strawberries in my garden. I could make yam from them.” or
“I want to organize a workshop on healing psoriasis naturally.” or even
“Channeling is actually really cool, I want to learn to do it.”

When an idea enters your mind, pay attention. What comes next?

Is your mind running away in the future, seeing all the plans and possibilities?
Is your inner critic showing up with reasons why you couldn’t/shouldn’t?
Do you dream about it, than dismiss the idea?
Do you start to take action on making the idea a reality?

What comes next for you? If you feel like it, write your observation down in a journal, talk about it with a friend or you can also talk about it with me.

Whatever you find, it’s a treasure! So it’s worth a celebration! It’s the first step in deciphering where your own personal productivity cycle could be broken, so you can start mending it. And you know what happens when you start mending a broken cycle? It will start to move into flow, meaning you’ll be able to get the right things done, with less effort and more energy to spare.

Do you want to get clear on your situation? What keeps you stuck and where you could take steps to improve your productivity? If you answered “yes”, drop me an email.

I’m offering 5 spots for a free assessment to do just that: get clear on where you are. Because you can’t find the right direction, without knowing where you are right now.

 

Here’s to your conscious productivity!

Cheers,

Help! I suck at planning…

It’s 3PM on a Thursday, the kids are getting edgy, there is no normal food in the house, you need to reschedule a client for tomorrow and you still haven’t found the time to finalize your flyer for your upcoming workshop.

 

You might have made a weekly plan, with items like “plan meals, do grocery shopping, adjust availability on schedule, choose final images for flyer”. But it might be just sitting on your desk, untouched. You know when everything is flowing you’re focused and you feel so much more at ease. And yet, you keep circling back to these chaotic times -plan or no plan. I know how it feels. I’ve had my fair share of chaotic years, despite taking the time to plan things out.

 

When plans fail
For a long time, I’d tell myself I was a master planner. I’ve been obsessed with learning about and experimenting with planning and productivity systems. For several years, I researched this area and was my own guinea pig for finding what works and what doesn’t. Where this obsession came from? Well, I just struggled a lot planning and staying organized.

 

After years of experiments, I did get better in a few things though. I got pretty good in looking at my time and calculating in time for possible different outcomes, possible troubles etc. I’d consider everything, really EVERYTHING before making a plan.

 

It took me a fair amount of time to actually make the plans themselves sometimes… And still, life would get in the way, I’d get sidetracked and it was just not working well for me on the long term. Until I realized that starting with the actions and outcomes in planning is the wrong way to go about it (I wrote about the why here).

 

One step towards sustainable planning
So I started to approach my planning from the more aligned space of who I needed to be, how I wanted to feel, how I wanted to act, and only after that getting to the actual action part. It all went better. I felt better about my plans. But after some time, I got stuck in the same kind of trouble as before. What the hell was going on? I was frustrated beyond measure.

 

Giving up was still not an option, as when I’m not planning, things get real chaotic real quick in our little family (think about quick and far from healthy meals, last minute laundry drying with a hair dryer, a constant feeling of rushing, exhaustion and overwhelm… there’s more, but you get the point).

 

One step forward, one step…? Up?
Something had to change. It wasn’t until I went through an utterly exhausting period, and really just shut down physical, mentally, emotionally, that I finally found the answer. I was approaching planning from a “once it’s done, it’s done” point of view.

 

Now, with my spiritual practice and several other -mildly irritating- areas of my life (laundry or dishes anyone?), I not only accepted, but was quite at peace with the fact that it’s an ongoing practice. After you worked through that pile of dirty dishes, you won’t need to wait too long before you’ll have a few extra ones sitting in the sink. I accepted these as just being part of the human experience. But I still operated from an outdated belief when it came to planning.

 

Following the nature of Life while planning for it
Life is a living, shifting, changing, transforming being. So you can’t expect to make the perfect plan for today and for it to be still perfect tomorrow. I expected that. Or maybe I wished it was like that, but that really didn’t help me much. Just like Life, the plan needs tending to, so it can shift, change and transform with whatever is happening in your life. But!

 

Just like in Life, there’s a constant underneath this whirlwind of change. Just like underneath it all, there’s the whole unity -Oneness-, underneath all the to-do’s and how you show up in the world, is your core essence, the core qualities of what you bring to this world. The clearer and more connected you are to these core qualities, the better you’ll be able to handle change with grace and ease.

 

Small steps towards big changes
So whenever you feel like you resist planning, because you failed at it before, or you plan, but you still feel like your life is chaotic, take a moment.

 

Sit with what’s underneath it all.
Sit with your essence.
Sit with the qualities that want to be embodied through you.
And sit with how you want to show up in your life.

 

If you’d like to be guided through this process in meditation, join me here.

 

Here’s to your conscious productivity!

 

Conscious Productivity Podcast Ep#1 – Is the working-hard mentality hurting your productivity?

Welcome to the first episode of the Conscious Productivity Podcast (CPP).

I know you’ve got a lot to do. I also know that sitting down to read a blogpost with attention can be a great break from work, but can also be impossible sometimes. In those times, listening to something short and sweet can be absolutely nourishing.

In these short episodes, I’ll cover insights about productivity from the point of view of meditation, wisdom traditions and spiritual teachings, together with practices that can be done by anyone who’s willing to try.

This first episode discusses how and why the blood-sweat-and-tears, hussling mentality can hurt your long-term productivity. 

CPP Ep#1 Is the working-hard mentality hurting your productivity?

by Veronika Magali-Marosy

Your body is a purpose-driven organism

Sometimes you’re so lost in the every day stresses and to-do’s, that when someone asks: “And, what’s your vision? Do you have a goal?” you look at them like they are talking in klingon.

 

You know you want a bigger vision for yourself and your work. You know it’d be amazing to be able to see where you’re going and the steps to get there. But it still feels like you’re unable to do it. How could you even start, when all these daily chores pile up so high, they threaten to crush your soul?!

 

One baby step at a time. If you’re someone, who spends most of her time in her head or caught up in emotions, this is for you. If you feel like it’s easy for you to listen to your body, but you lost the connection for some reason, this is for you as well.

 

By tuning into the body, we can slowly become aware of the whole system we are part of. By zooming in, you can zoom out as well. You might have heard or even know very well, that the atoms that build us up, are just like solar systems. When you zoom in far enough, everything looks like space with the planets, stars and comets. It’s awe inspiring! But this is not exactly what I want to talk about.

 

I’m talking about tuning into your body, so that you can see how everything has a purpose. Every cell in your body has a purpose to thrive in it’s own way and by doing so, contributing to the wellbeing of the whole organism: your body. Think about it! When your lifestyle supports your body’s natural functions, the body has infinite wisdom to repair and thrive.

 

The same is true for you. You have a purpose. Your purpose is to thrive in your own unique way and by doing so, you contribute to the bigger purpose, the bigger good. When you thrive, you’re happy. When you’re happy, doing the hard work of helping others heal is filled with ease. And happy people do good things automatically.

 

So when you’re lost about your vision or purpose, take a break from your head and tune into the wisdom of your body. Look at it, feel it, observe it. Start to understand it’s wisdom. And if you’re inspired to do so, meditate with me, by tuning into the body, especially the powerhouse of your lower belly.

 

Enjoy!

 

Would you rather listen to it on Insight Timer? I’ve got you covered here.

Why we need to redefine goal-setting

A woman came to me recently and asked for help. She’s been disappointed with her results in goal setting. She was struggling not only with setting goals and priorities, but also with staying the course and getting there. If you think “well, she’s not alone with that.” you’re absolutely right! This is a huge struggle for the majority of people, and it’s mostly a result of a common misconception about goal-setting and visioning.

 

Pitfalls of “common sense” goals
A well know teaching in pretty much every wisdom tradition is that the only thing you have control over, is how you are in any given situation. You rarely ever get to control anything outside of yourself, like the people around you, the situations you find yourself in, the things that life throws at you. So why do we try to set goals and create future visions that focus entirely on things that are outside of our control?

 

“I’m going to get three new clients this month.”
“I want to triple my email list by the end of the year.”
“I want to sell this project by the end of the quarter.”

 

Life always just happens
Anyone who’s ever tried doing a yearly, quarterly or even weekly planning this way, knows that life gets in the way most of the times. It’s rarely ever going according to plan. While having a list of tasks that need to be done is clarifying and really beneficial, letting those tasks define your goals and become your vision, is going to set you up for feeling like you’ve failed or even worse: that you are a failure.

 

Where focus needs to be
The biggest mistake one can make when defining a vision, is to focus solely on activities, tasks and end-results and not take into consideration the only thing they have control over: how and who they want to be in the process. When you’re too focused on activities and results, you’ll be blindfolded to opportunities that come your way. Opportunities that you couldn’t have imagined doing when you were setting your goals, but that can make your life and work better in ways you couldn’t have even grasped before.

 

The possibilities of a different perspective
This is what happened to the woman I mentioned above. During our session, she realized she already had an idea about who she wanted to be. She had a beautiful and powerful vision of that version of herself. So during the weekend, she started to ask herself the question “what would this version of myself do?”.

 

This question led her to take out a closet with drawers from her daughter’s room and replace it with friendlier furniture, that helped her daughter feel less irritated in her own room. While doing this, her creative juices started to flow and she repurposed the drawers, planting a whole new section in her garden. Now, gardening would have never made it to her weekly planning or any kind of to-do list, because she made her task and goal list only with actions in mind that were based on who she believed she was: someone who’s not at all good in taking care of plants. This is the mistake we all make, when trying to follow common sense goal-setting.

This spontaneous activity didn’t just feel fun and fulfilling for her. It opened her up to possibilities. After she got a boost of energy and motivation from gardening, she went on to do meal prepping for the week ahead, that made her feel spacious to do her work in the coming days, because whatever happens, she’ll have meals ready. It also made her feel accomplished and proud of herself, which is in and of itself a huge motivator for getting things done.

 

Doing the work from the inside out
So how do you set goals and create a vision to work towards? By starting with finding the person you want to be in the process. Goal-setting becomes a way of envisioning who you want to be, instead of what you want to do. When you’re clear on who you want to be, like how you want to feel and what posture you are taking on, that will inform the thoughts you’ll think and ultimately the actions you’ll take. But you can’t really plan actions too far ahead, because life is changing and moving around.

 

The only thing you can plan, is how you’ll be. That’s the only thing. I know this can feel scary and liberating at the same time.

 

When you let your focus rest on who and how you want to be, the right activities and opportunities will arise, without you needing to figure them out. That’s a huge load off your shoulders, isn’t it?! You don’t need to figure out what you’ll be doing a year from now, when it’s even pretty difficult to know what you’ll be doing tomorrow (Amiright??? *wink, wink*). So rest into who you want to be, and watch life unfold in front of your eyes, to help you live that vision.

 

And if you feel called to find the qualities, feelings and postures that want to be embodied by you right now, let me guide you through this meditation.

 

Here’s to your success!

 

Hugs,

Find what arises, when all tension falls away

Daily stresses, old traumas, outdates beliefs and the habits that come from them. They all create tension and stiffness in the body.

 

When we live without much awareness, we get a little more tense, a little more stiff day after day. But can you imagine how your life could look and feel like, if all tension fell away?

 

In this practice, we’ll journey through sensations of the body, emotions and the deepest, Divine qualities that lie beyond the layers of everyday tension.

 

Join me to uncover how it feels to embody those deepest qualities.

Hugs,

Find what arises when all tension falls away

by Veronika Magali-Marosy

Challenging yourself vs finding comfort. Which one is going to move you forward?

Lately, you’ve been having difficulty progressing with your projects. You hit a point, where you’re not moving forward as much as you’d like to. Maybe not at all. Whether you’re overwhelmed to take action, or stuck in a rut and just want to give up, you probably tried a million ways to find a solution to your problem. A big portion of those million ways is possibly a variation on what I call “the challenge-mentality”. It’s all around us.

 

“Always leap!”

“Challenge yourself!”

“Get out of your comfort zone!”

“No pain, no gain.”

 

It is seen as ‘The One and Only Way’ to move forward and create something worth creating.

 

I’m not saying that a challenge isn’t useful sometimes, but there’s definitely a time and place for choosing comfort. Not only for comfort’s sake, but because this will be the exact solution that moves you forward.

 

In our last family holiday, we were hiking a lot. We were building it up, starting with shorter and less challenging ones, to our last one, that was longer and more challenging than any we’ve done before. It turned out to be even more challenging than we thought.

 

We were literally on the edge for most of the hike, with deep drops on one side of the path and steep cliff walls on the other. It required a lot of attention and focus from us, to move forward safely and in a good pace. One of us might have been very anxious for a good portion of the hike. And it might not have been as bad as she thought… (it was me, if you were wondering…) nonetheless, it was necessary to pay attention.

 

It was like being in the thick of a project, where there’s a lot going on at the same time and it feels like you’re constantly putting out fires. After every corner, a near-emergency pops up out of seemingly nowhere and it needs your attention NOW. On top of that, we all have personal challenges in our life that add to the work-pressure.

So after several hours of hiking and lots of km’s behind us, we reached a road and we needed to make a decision. By that time, we’ve done most of the round and we arrived back to a slightly more populated area. The kids were tired, even though they were heroes in walking forward.

 

We knew that we only had 3.4 km more to go, but we still needed to climb a bit and than go downhill on a steep mountainside. A path that would require a lot of extra attention to stay safe.

 

This was a sliding-door moment, just like the one, where you are struggling to take action on your project, but can’t bear the pressure any more. You have a choice: either challenge yourself, take a leap into the difficult tasks or choose comfort and do something that feels safe and familiar. Which one will propel you forward? To be able to answer this question, you need to take your situation into consideration.

We did exactly that and quickly analyzed the situation: It was getting dark, we were running out of snacks and water and we all felt more and more tired. We were way out of our comfort zone, pushing some limits already. There was the choice to either push forward, just go and challenge ourselves even more, or to stop at the road and hitchhike.

 

We were in the middle of nowhere.  When we finally managed to stop a car, there was place for only one person. I quickly took the backpack from my husband and told him to go. He had the car keys and he’s a much more experienced driver, so there was no question about who should go.

 

I was left there in the half wilderness with two kids. It was nearly and hour wait, getting dark and cold quickly, but I felt relieved and happy, and easily kept the kids in a good mood as well. Choosing comfort, when we were really on the edge, made a hard day feel easy and fun. It was an experience that filled us up with confidence about our ability to hike in a smart way, instead of depleting us and taking away the desire to do it again.

 

Now, choosing comfort didn’t mean that we’d just sit around, waiting for the Messiah to show up. We did take action. But the action we took, was one that didn’t feel scary and didn’t require a huge leap.

 

The same way, when your life is already full of challenges, you most likely won’t need another challenge that will push you over the edge into overwhelm. When you need to move a house, to deal with an illness, care for a family member, or any other challenge, you don’t need to put another weight on your shoulders with your project.

 

Challenging yourself when you’re already stressed, puts you at risk of getting exhausted, and it will take you much longer to bounce back up. You loose not only energy, but time as well in the process. In challenging times, choose steps that are tiny, familiar and feel safe enough not to stress you out.

 

On the other hand, when your life is stable, you don’t have many fires to put out and you feel comfortable, a challenge can propel you forward without loosing momentum or feeling like you’re stuck in a rut. In those cases, the challenge can balance boredom and rigid routines. When your life is at a comfortable place, choose to leap, to take the scary road, to do the things you didn’t dare to do before.

 

In other words, when stressed, choose comfort, when comfortable, challenge yourself. But always take the next step, however tiny it is.

 

So where are you on this spectrum? Take this short quiz to get a quick overview.

 

Mark ‘true’ or ‘untrue’ for every statement, according to how you feel about your life right now.

 

Challenge level

  • I am extremely busy. I often spread myself very thin and I use everything I have to get it all done.
  • I have a lot of people in my life who depend on me.
  • I am facing many challenges right now – emotional, financial or physical.
  • I have very little support from friends and family in my life right now.
  • My home or financial situation feel unstable. (In the last year I have moved or lost/changed jobs)
  • I have trouble making time for self-care.
  • I often feel very tired both when I wake up and throughout the day.

Comfort level

  • My life feels very stable and steady without any extreme challenges, physical or emotional.
  • I have a lot of family and friends who support me both in my personal and professional growth.
  • Everyday I practice several self-care techniques.
  • It’s important for me to regularly make time to tend to my emotional and physical well-being.
  • I have a stable home and stable income.
  • I regularly exercise and feel healthy.
  • I have a very comfortable lifestyle full of love and laughter.

How did it go? Did you get more ‘true’s in the challenge or the comfort category?

Let me know by leaving a comment or send me an email here.

 

Here’s to your productivity!

Hugs,

Feel supported, take action

There are times, when you know what your next step should be. You know and feel that it’s the right next step. But still, you can’t make yourself take that step. You’re procrastinating, feeling stuck and just plain unable to act.

In these situations, often what you need, is more support. Even when you have a great network of loving friends, family and colleagues, who are there for you, you might need to feel supported on a deeper level.

This is when zooming out and acknowledging the ways that you are already supported, can move mountains.

When you feel deeply supported, you can let go of the worries, anxieties, fears and tensions that paralyze you. Instead, you can feel open, energized and lean, so you can move ahead with that next step.

If you need that deeper sense of support, do this meditation with me.

Here’s to your conscious productivity!
Cheers,

Do you want to gain more clarity around your producvitity? Get the Four Skills of Productivity workbook here.