Assumptions

Assumptions

How assumptions rob you from new friendships and a deeper connection.

The catch of assuming

Some of our assumptions seem logical. “No one wants to be stuck with a needle”, except the millions of people who willingly get acupuncture treatments and benefit from it big time. “Jane doesn’t like olives, she would never eat your home-made pasta sauce”, except that the taste of the olives are just a shadow in it and who knows, she might love it if she tried. When we assume something, we lose the chance to communicate and we automatically shut down connection. We are left behind, in a way. Here’s an example: (more…)

Let’s take responsibility!

Let’s take responsibility!

The “They”
One mom, waiting for her oldest to be out of school, said her youngest had a contagious disease. He wasn’t so sick that he couldn’t get out of bed, he didn’t look too ill, but he had the symptoms. She didn’t think he needed to stay home the next day, because “They don’t let you keep your kid at home, when they have this disease.” That’s when my blood started boiling. (more…)

About Prejudice and Judgement

About Prejudice and Judgement

“You’re gonna love this one!” my husband told me in the car, while he put on one of the songs from his new playlist. The title appeared: “Disturbed – The Sound of Silence”. Now I actually do love “The Sound of Silence” by Simon and Garfunkel. But looking at the dashboard of the car, I had my doubts about this version. My husband’s new playlist included songs that I tolerated, maybe even liked when I was a teenager (Rammstein, Nightwish, Korn… hell, I sometimes even listened to Children of Bodom… strange times.) but they give me the chills now. And not in a good way… (more…)